When Letting Go of Things Feels Like Letting Go of Love

One of the most common questions I hear — both personally and through thousands of readings — is this:

“How do I let go of my loved one’s things without feeling like I’m losing them all over again?”

Whether it’s clothing, furniture, letters, or sentimental items, objects can hold powerful emotional weight. But what we’re really holding onto isn’t the item itself — it’s the memory, the love, the identity, and the connection we associate with it.

Objects Hold Emotion — Not the Soul

From a spiritual perspective, our loved ones are not attached to objects. They are not living in belongings, boxes, or spaces. They live in energy. They live in memory. They live in love.

In readings, spirit often reminds me — and those receiving messages — that love is not stored in physical things. Energy moves. Love moves. Connection is eternal and does not depend on what we keep or release.

Letting go of objects does not mean letting go of your loved one.

When Empathy Turns Into Emotional Control

Sometimes, holding onto everything feels like an act of love — but over time, it can quietly turn into emotional control. Not from others, but from grief itself.

Psychologically, our minds attach safety and identity to objects during loss. Keeping things can feel grounding at first, but eventually it’s important to ask:

• Does this item bring comfort?

• Or does it keep me stuck in the past?

• Does it support my healing — or weigh me down?

Grief doesn’t need to be carried forever in physical form.

Keep What Feels Meaningful — Release What Feels Heavy

Healing isn’t about erasing the past. It’s about choosing what you carry forward.

It’s okay to:

• Keep a few meaningful items

• Release what no longer serves you

• Honour love without holding onto everything

You are allowed to evolve beyond your grief without betraying it.

Love Stays — Even When Things Go

One of the most comforting truths spirit consistently shares is this:

Love does not disappear when belongings do.

Your loved ones remain connected to you through energy, intention, and heart — not objects. When you let go with love, gratitude, and intention, you are not losing anything. You are making space.

Space for healing.

Space for peace.

Space for the next chapter of your life.

And that, too, is an act of love.